Trust is a magical and sacred thing.
It’s the one belief that fundamentally alters your life forever, for better and for worse.
Last night my wife and I watched a documentary called “My Octopus Teacher”. It’s the story of a man named Craig Foster who (10 years ago) gained the trust of an octopus and became friends in the heart of a giant kelp forest off the southernmost tip of Africa.
It’s fascinating, joy-filled, and inevitably heartbreaking (many tears have been shed by your tender-hearted coach).
On an intuitive feeling there was something special about an octopus Craig noticed while swimming, he decided to run an experiment to see if he could gain her trust.
He spent 26 days swimming close-by and staying very still before she finally trusted him enough to reach out and touch him with a single tentacle. Once she learned that Craig had no interest in hurting her, neither of their lives were the same again.
Don’t worry, I’m not going to spoil the whole movie for you. Just check it out the next time you catch yourself in one of those patented endless Netflix scrolling loops.
This story of a man and his octopus friend made me realize more than ever how much of our life experience is built on trust.
To tell you the truth, it took me many years to trust myself enough to believe I could be a valuable asset in your poker journey. I thought of it as procrastination or “imposter’s syndrome” but it was really a fundamental lack of trust in myself as your teacher and guide.
I was desperately afraid that if you put your trust in me I would fail to hold up to my end of the bargain. It was a risk I was too afraid to take.
After many (painful) years of accumulating evidence of the impact I was making in the poker journey’s of my 1-1 students that I finally trusted myself enough to take the risk.
Watching them progress in their poker journeys is honestly a feeling of pride I can’t even articulate to you. Simply put, in my professional life it means everything to me.
Once I trusted myself enough to take the risk, though, the damndest thing happened:
I realized that earning your trust was just as important as trusting myself.
These daily emails are that dance of me trying to earn your trust in action.
It’s like I’m swimming close by in your little world while trying to stay as still as possible. I just want to let you know that I mean no harm, just the opposite in fact.
I’m trying to tell you, “Hey, you there. I see your dreams, desires, and your suffering. I have felt all of these myself and I know I can help. Will you trust me enough today to let me in your little world to help?”
I fully understand why you’re tentative in taking that risk. Horrible things happen when you place your trust in the wrong person.
So I just want you to know that if you don’t trust me enough to help you in your poker journey today…
I’m holding out hope for a day in the future when you reach out your metaphorical tentacle and we get to go on an adventure together.
This next week I’m putting together a team of advanced players who all share a desire to play more volume, move up stakes, and realize their full poker potential.
Originally my plan was to cap the roster at 10 players but, as a sign of respect to the brave and trusting octopus, I’m reducing that cap to 8.
Three folks are already on board for the launch on October 1st with multiple consultations scheduled over the next couple of days.
If you’d like to have your own conversation about joining up, here’s a link to set up your free 30 minute consult:
If you’re not ready yet, that’s ok too. I’ll still come swimming back around tomorrow to check in.